Everyone has their own ideas of what their dream wedding will look like. For some people, it is a small ceremony on a beach with close friends and family. For others, they dream of having a traditional church ceremony. Then there are Disney people, whose dream weddings usually have some sort of Park experience, maybe a Cinderella carriage ride, and possibly even character appearances. Yes, Disney adults are definitely out of the traditional box when it comes to weddings. However, one couple went so far out of the norm for their Disney wedding, that they are going viral.
In a since-deleted Reddit post, one couple shared that they were huge Disney fans, so they decided to pay to have Mickey and Minnie make two appearances during their celebration. The big caveat to spending the money to have the head mouse himself was that the couple did not offer food at their wedding, something that did not sit well with readers.
The original Reddit post read:
AITA for not having catering at my wedding?
My (F28) and my fiancée (M30) jsut got married two months ago and we had our dream wedding. Everything was perfect, and I mean everything. My parents and his parents helped us pay for a great chunk of the wedding so we would be debt free and we are so eternally grateful for that.
The issue arose about a month and a half ago when my aunt started posting on facebook about how disappointed she was with the whole ordeal and a few Guests sided with her.
Background – my fiancée and I are huge Disney fans, and we travel to Disney World as much as we can throughout the year. Disney is such an important part not only to us, but also our marriage.
The issue was with our decision to not offer catering services/bar services at our wedding due to routing the money towards having a wedding Minnie and Mickey make appearances at our special day. The cost to have both Minnie and Mickey for a good chunk of time (30 minutes) was almost exactly what our parents allotted for our catering budget, so we scheduled during our first dance and our wedding photos, forgoing served food (though there were PLENTY of facilities at the venue where people could eat…).
My parents were still very supportive of us, but everyone else is being passive aggressive about it on Facebook.
EDIT (Info): To those asking if the guests were “warned”, we CLEARLY outlined in the invitations that there was food avilable at the venue. We didn’t exactly spell out every restaurant’s MENU, but it was certainly mentioned. There were also vending machines available throughout.
EDIT 2 (Info): for everyone saying that it’s too much for 30 minutes, I want to clarify that it was two (2) 30 minute sessions on different days. 2750 was the cost for one session.
Opinions on the post were swift and relatively brutal. Many thought that, when inviting Guests to a wedding, you feed them. They felt it was rude to ask Guests to pay for everything just to attend your wedding, and then tell them that they’ll have to pay to possibly eat out of a vending machine. One Redditor who was incredibly honest was u/FoolMe1nceShameOnU, who wrote:
YTA, big time.
If you wanted a wedding that was solely about what made you and your fiancé (two e’s is female, BTW) happy, and that centered entirely on the desires of the two of you, then you should have eloped. If it were just the two of you, then it would have been perfectly acceptable to spend your budget however it made you happiest.
But when you choose to invite other people to an occasion, you become their host, and you are both WAY too old not to understand that you don’t host an event and completely ignore the needs and comfort of your guests. You’re both hovering around 30 years old, for Pete’s sake! Are you telling me that you honestly don’t understand how childishly self-centred and inappropriate it was to spend the ENTIRE budget your parents allotted to feeding the guests YOU INVITED to share in your special occasion . . . people who spent their own time and money to come celebrate with you . . . on 30 minutes of something that was SOLELY for your personal entertainment, and leave them to either be hungry or pay for food out of pocket, when they were only there because you’d asked them to be?
You may be the bride and groom, but they were your guests. If you didn’t want to take them into consideration, you shouldn’t have had a wedding with guests. That’s how that works. YTA.
Others felt that the bride and groom had misled Guests by letting them know there would be food at the venue, but not explicitly stating that there would be none served at the wedding reception. U/EquivalentCommon5 was one of those people, who wrote:
Also, they may have laid out venues for food, but did they explicitly explain that they were not covering the costs of food? I’ve never heard of a wedding that didn’t at minimum serve some tiny amount of food, even if only minor and stated in the invite. Nothing seems odd, even to me.
Redditors weren’t the only people who had opinions, the thread quickly went viral on Twitter as well, and Twitter users were just as unforgiving. RuthAnne felt that the couple could have their dream wedding, but shouldn’t be surprised people had opinions about what they did.
This is the social contract, people: you can have whatever kind of wedding you want, but your guests get to gossip about it as much as they want. You give them Mickey and Minnie instead of food, and you’re shocked they have opinions?
This is the social contract, people: you can have whatever kind of wedding you want, but your guests get to gossip about it as much as they want.
You give them Mickey and Minnie instead of food, and you’re shocked they have opinions? pic.twitter.com/7nTxFOMIiD
— RuthAnne (@ruthanne_snow) June 6, 2022
King Artie could not imagine what it would be like to watch a couple getting their picture taken with Mickey and Minnie while they are sitting at a table with no food.
Imagine sitting at a table with no food watching two weirdos in costumes pose for pictures with Mickey and Minnie Mouse
— ? King Artie ? (@Artie_Thinks) June 6, 2022
Recently, Disney Adults have been quite the topic of conversation on social media. Those who aren’t Disney fans think that Disney Adults are people who just need to grow up. Disney Adults just want to be left alone to love Disney with their fellow Disney Adults. Twitter user B.W. Carlin felt that the bride and groom are what is wrong with Disney Adults.
I’ve said it once, I’ll say it now, and I’ll say it 100 more times. Disney adults are the absolute worst people. Having MICKEY AND MINNIE MOUSE at your wedding instead of food is absolutely preposterous
I’ve said it once, I’ll say it now, and I’ll say it 100 more times. Disney adults are the absolute worst people.
Having MICKEY AND MINNIE MOUSE at your wedding instead of food is absolutely preposterous https://t.co/y9GQgUxr4t
— B.W. Carlin (@BaileyCarlin) June 6, 2022
When it comes to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole? Forum, many of the stories can split people down the middle. However, this post seemed to have people uniting under the common belief — if you don’t want to feed your Guests, then don’t have a wedding reception.
What do you think about the bride and groom not offering food so they could get their picture taken with Mickey and Minnie?